Silence: The Sound of Female Sexual Shame
Shame is the biggest predictor of pornography use.
Women now make up 30% of all pornography users. Given the prevalence of pornography, the numbers are huge.
For too long, society has presumed pornography to be an exclusively “man’s issue.”[i] The continued cultural silence for female pornography use has driven many women further into the shadows. Silence intensifies shame and therefore deepens their involvement in the very behaviour they may wish to stop.
Not only can it be stopped, the beauty that is longed for in it can be restored through right relationships.
‘C.S. Lewis, in Mere Christianity, writes, “Goodness is, so to speak, itself: badness is only spoiled goodness. And there must be something good first before it can be spoiled.” Pornography is so alluring and so damaging not only because it spoils the goodness of sex. That is obvious. Pornography also spoils the bonds of relationship.
The ultimate defeat of shame is this: the spoiled stories that attempted to convince us to remain silent are now the very source of our pursuit of the overwhelming goodness of sexual, relational, and spiritual joy. God exchanges our unwanted ashes for beauty. Silence for discovery. Shame for pleasure.’
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